Neediness

So I cam across this great website called calmdownmind.com and came across one of the author's comments which was:

The way most people define love in relationships is sometimes just another term for emotional dependence or neediness, where you crave the other person’s attention, approval and care. This is one reason why this so-called love turns to “hate” in quick time when they are not able to control the behavior of their partner. True love is not imbued with neediness, it’s mostly just an experience of sharing your life with a person you feel compatible with and enjoying physical intimacy/sex as an experience of joy without neediness. Or you can also enjoy a sexual connection with a partner, as an experience, without looking for any emotional fulfillment. If you depend on your partner to make you feel whole, it won’t be long before you suffocate her/him with your neediness thus causing a bitter conflict in the relationship. When you feel whole within yourself, you will enjoy the experience of having a relationship without feeling needy in it.

This is 100% true and I think everyone needs to know this.  I even find myself victimized by the so-called love because it actually is not love.  Depending on someone for emotional gain is not how it should be because you're relying on the other person to make you "whole".  In other words, your partner is dictating your life and when things go south, your whole life burns away with it.